After graduating from Whitman in 2015, I thought I would go back to school a lot sooner. Then I learned to love not being a student. I built a beautiful life that involved setting up a home for myself, jobs with wonderful people, and exploring my neighborhood and city – learning to love it. I…
In a lifetime that feels long ago, but also present, I listened to a life-changing book. I followed that author from book to podcast and back and forth again. Now she shows up in my email on a semi-regular basis. Cheryl Strayed changed her life when she packed up and decided to hike the Pacific…
The last time I went to church for myself was Sunday, June 28th, 2015. Two days after the victorious decision on Obergefell v. Hodges. I think I needed to see for myself. Apart from a couple years spent in Norway, I attended the same church my entire childhood. I felt at home there. Every week…
Fearful in Friendship I have written before about friendships that have ended and how that leaves me wondering whether I can own any part of our relationship. Are the memories of fun adventures, bonding, and togetherness still filed under “happy times?” Do I transfer them to “unhappy memories?” Or do I try to ignore them…
I don’t remember a time when I had a healthy relationship with food. I’m sure when I was very small, I ate to satisfy my intuition and had no internal dialogue or shame about the choices I was making. Obviously when I was very young, I did not criticize or dislike my own body. I…
I do not think anyone needs me to summarize for them why life has been so difficult this past week, month, year. Everyone I have talked to is feeling the pain, uncertainty, and sadness. There is a lot of sadness in our lives right now. I am trying to figure out how to move forward….
Living with an emotional burden If you only have time for one new thing today, please skip my blog and instead check out Natal. This podcast is about having a baby while Black in the United States. As a lover of mothers and babies, it captured my attention and shares stories I had not heard….
If you only have time to read one thing today, please skip my blog and read this article from Tiara Darnell published by Portland Monthly Magazine. I spend a lot of time thinking and a lot of time thinking about how I am thinking. I can easily get lost inside my brain. While I enjoy…
I acknowledge the injustice, I accept responsibility for complacency, and I vow to listen, learn, and fight. I have intentionally taken a couple weeks off from posting to my blog, but I realize that just being silent without an explanation is not useful. Although my blog audience is small, I do not believe that gives…
Why does it hurt so much when friendships end? In a perfect world, I would remain friends with everyone forever. I would have time and energy to maintain every friendship. I would have memory capacity for everyone’s birthday and life events. Every time I saw an old friend I would be filled with joy and…
